Life is busy. We are inundated with apps, email, to-do lists, projects, family responsibilities and all that life throws our way. We are stretched, relentlessly tired and often find ourselves "personally and professionally depleted"(1). Our boundaries are crossed, our down-time is non-existent and if we could just outsource a few things to help us get on top of it all, we could breathe. So why don't we?
Too often we put everyone else's priorities and feelings first when what we really need to be doing is looking after number one.
We've become so ingrained in human 'doing' that we are neglecting human 'being' and ultimately neglecting ourselves. Expectations (societal, others & our own) along with our egos prevent us from seeking help, from taking a break, from replenishing our resources. The best thing you can do for yourself is put your ego and those expectations aside and take stock. Strive for authenticity and meaning....be mindful of your actions.
"Expectation is the root of all heartache." Shakespeare
What Can You Do Today?
Reflect ~ Write everything down that's taking up space in your brain. Your brain is similar to your computer: the more tabs you have open in your browser, the less efficient your computer is. The same thing goes for your brain and all of the things you have on your mind ~ they are sapping you of your energy and creativity. What's working for you? Are you aligned with your priorities? Be kind to yourself, avoid ruminating thoughts and worry, reframe the way you perceive stress.
Recover ~ Nourish your mind, body and spirit. Allow yourself to daydream, invite stillness into your life and take care of your physiological needs (sleep, eat a brain-healthy diet and exercise). Spend time with family and friends, escape the day-to-day, get into green space, unplug.
Reset ~ Create a plan for the next 6 months, one that's flexible and agile enough to account for lifes' curve balls. Instil practical, daily rituals that support you on all fronts (particularly morning rituals). When something attempts to derail your focus ask yourself "is this going to contribute to me achieving my goals?"...if not, let it go. Practice kaizen.
Our self-care is critical to our performance and overall wellbeing. The more compassion we have for ourselves, the more we are able to foster a growth mindset that views obstacles as opportunities and failure as a necessary component of success. The more compassion we have for ourselves, the more potential we have to thrive and set a positive example for others. When was the last time you checked in on yourself?
1 Gelles, David. (2015). Mindful Work. Profile Books Ltd. London.
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